The Secret of removing distractions.
Do you ever have that itch to jump to the next most fascinating book and can't wait to finish the current book, regardless of how good it is?
Or, maybe there is an anxiety about the next book because you are coming to an end of something brilliant, you don't want it to end… or perhaps the stack is low and the subsequent “reading fix” is not known? This is my dilemma! I love reading to learn more about how to make the lives of children and their parents easier ….we can never learn enough.
My next most fascinating book will be 'The boy who was raised as a Dog' by Dr Bruce Perry. Isn't the title just so intriguing? It comes highly recommended by many of my therapist friends and highly rated by Amazon, even Oprah Winfrey recommends this book.
Isn't the title just so intriguing?
As a warm-up intro, I decided to listen to one of Dr Perry's YouTube lectures while cooking the family meal. Chopping and listening to lectures is a match made in heaven, therapeutic in every way possible. As I was halfway through second vine tomato, it just struck me what he said.
"The role of safety, predictability, nurturing play, shapes us and how we think and behave..."
All of a sudden, like that famous clip in Jaws ideas, started to crystalise…
You see, my teacher and mentor, Bill Hubert, founder of Bal-A-Vis-X goes on about the importance of rhythm. But I have always wondered why this particular therapy works so well? Why do we settle children from an anxious state to that of reasoning and calmness using this therapy? Why does it work time and time again?
On that second vine tomato, it hit me what Dr Perry was saying about predictability. Having predictability in an activity or knowing the outcome gives us a deep emotional sense safety to do it again, it provides our body respite to repeat the same action. This safety is the key to moving from random to order; rhythm gives predictability.
But predictability is not complete in itself; it does not switch the brain and body on fully; those children with ADHD don’t just go to the park and come back settled there is something more. The critical ingredient is adding vestibular movement.
Vestibular movement switches on the senses of sight and sound and connects with all the muscles in the body. By turning on the brain and the body in this in this repeated way, we remove distracting thoughts because we use every part of our system. Maybe, it is this holistic respite the body can experience how having control can feel….and short bursts can be longer with every predictable repetition.
While going to the park and having a play outside does a world of good but if your child has been over stimulated by frantic activity it is not calming in the least. Calming is like sitting on a swing or rocking, and moving with a smoothness no awkward or jerkiness.
Are you the teacher/parent of a highly distracted child?
Is your child constantly distracted and can’t get their homework done? You may want to look into the ‘parent/teacher empowering’ 2-Day workshop we run. By doing the exercises for ten to twenty minutes per day while standing on the balance board you notice improved concentration and fewer distractions.